Is love a feeling or an emotion?

There is no right or wrong answer to this question. If you try to answer it from the spiritual point of view, love is one of the strongest feelings you might have in your lifetime. But, at the same time, science gives us a clear picture how many different emotions involve when we fall in love. According to Jim Al-Khalili, a theoretical physicist and science writer: “Love is a powerful neurological condition like hunger or thirst, only more permanent. We talk about love being blind or unconditional, in the sense that we have no control over it. But then, that is not so surprising since love is basically chemistry. While lust is a temporary passionate sexual desire involving the increased release of chemicals such as testosterone and oestrogen, in true love, or attachment and bonding, the brain can release a whole set of chemicals: pheromones, dopamine, norepinephrine, serotonin, oxytocin and vasopressin. However, from an evolutionary perspective, love can be viewed as a survival tool – a mechanism we have evolved to promote long-term relationships, mutual defence and parental support of children and to promote feelings of safety and security.”

Biological anthropologist Dr. Helen Fisher says that love is comprised of three key components, involving the different (but connected) brain systems:

  • Lust — driven by androgens and estrogens; the craving for sexual gratification
  • Attraction — driven by high dopamine and norepinephrine levels and low serotonin; romantic or passionate love, characterized by euphoria when things are going well and terrible mood swings when they’re not, focused attention, obsessive thinking, and intense craving for the individual
  • Attachment — driven by the hormones oxytocin and vasopressin; the sense of calm, peace, and stability one feels with a long-term partner

Love is messy, complex, sometimes incomprehensible, and difficult to manage. Love can make us happy, it can surprise us, and it can also cause sadness. When love happens, the best approach is to try your best to keep things simple and accept it all.


Online Dating Tips

Your personal safety should be your top priority and you should always use caution and your best judgment when communicating with, or meeting new people, both online and offline.

– Don’t exchange personal data online. Use an anonymous phone service when you are ready to take your communication to the next step. Wait until you actually meet the person before you share your full name, address, phone number or real email address.

– Trust your instincts and immediately stop communicating with a person who makes you feel uncomfortable.

– Never give financial information such as you social security number, credit card number or bank information to people you just met online. Ignore any request to send money, especially overseas or by wire transfer.

– Don’t be played by a player. Be aware of “red flags” when someone right away asks to talk or chat on an outside email or messaging service; claims to be from The U.S. or other English speaking country, but makes many grammatical and/or spelling errors; asks you for money; or claims they love you right away.

– Block and report suspicious members. Your involvement will help keep WCI community safe, fun and enjoyable.

– The U.S. Federal Trade Commission’s advice to avoid online scams is available here:

If you are meeting someone for the first time, you should always take precautions such as the following:

– Always meet in a public place at a time when many people are around. Never meet late at night. Don’t go back to your date’s home or bring them back to yours on the first date.

– Drive yourself to and from the first meeting. Use your own transportation, Uber or taxi. Never have the person pick you up from your home or office.

– Inform a friend or family member when and where you’re going. Make sure you have a mobile phone with you.

– Stay sober. If you’re drinking, keep your drink with you at all times.

– Don’t leave your personal belongings unattended.

– Bring extra money with you.

– Your safety is most important. Never worry or feel embarrassed about your behavior.

– Long distance meetings require more careful preparation. If you can’t afford to pay for your own hotel room, you shouldn’t go. Always use a taxi or rental car to get to and from the airport. Make sure your friend or family member knows the details of your trip.

HAPPY 4th OF JULY! ‘Freedom is nothing but a chance to be better. The power to live as one wishes.’

‘You have to love a Nation that celebrates it’s Independence every 4th of July, not with a parade of guns, tanks, and soldiers who file by the White House in a show of strength and muscle, but with family picnics.’

On July 4, 1776, the Continental Congress approved the Declaration of Independence, setting the 13 colonies on the road to freedom. The Committee of Five Founding Fathers – Benjamin Franklin, John Adams, Thomas Jefferson, Roger Sherman and Robert R. Livingston – drafted the document with Jefferson writing most of its content.

On July 4, 1776, there were 2.5 million people living in the newly independent nation; today, America’s population is more than 323 million. Independence Day became a federal holiday in 1870.

Nobody can make you happy until you’re happy with yourself first.

When people look for a new relationship, they either look for someone to complete them or make them happy. Often, they try to present themselves in the best possible way for their imagined future partner. Instead of trying hard to meet “the one”, try to find the missing parts of you.

Most of us express only a small part of who we are. We limit ourselves to the personality that we have developed in response to our childhood environment.
Don’t be scared to disappoint people. The reality is that nobody is living your life for you. For this reason, you need do what’s right for you and live your life the way you feel it. Just learn how to be yourself.

Confidence is the key. If you are attracted to any qualities in someone else, find or develop those qualities in yourself.

We all get into ruts and routines we use to get through the day. Don’t put life on auto-pilot – live consciously, engage with life. The simplest way to stop assessing others as potential life partners is to just stop looking for a partner and connect with the people you meet with genuine interest.

When you meet someone with whom you have a good connection, allow that connection to develop and grow. Don’t hurry things. There is no need to play games. A successful long-term relationship is not a game. The best you can do is live your life more fully, learn to accept and love yourself more fully, and you will love and be loved more fully.